How many will you meet today?

It amazes me how many guys start to get into this stuff, can walk into a club with guns blazing, and totally own the place, yet walk through their daily lives with no change in their habits or behaviors, including continuing in the old routine of not approaching women. While the principles of attraction remain the same, the high-energy club is a different dynamic from the places you go in your daily life. If you want to be a "pickup artist" then great, good to know that you have a goal in mind - stick to social proofing your club and enjoy the fruits of your labor. However, if you want to transcend the label, if you want to make your success with women a positive change and addition to your entire lifestyle, rather then just your weekend nights, then I highly suggest you begin working on your daygame.

The first thing you need to do is come to the realization that you can and will meet women ANYWHERE. Attractive women are everywhere you go (except maybe a Weight Watchers meeting), and there's nothing but your own fear of judgment stopping you from making a new friend or more. Every morning when you wake up, prepare yourself to meet women anywhere you go.

Having this mentality, and following through with approaching the women you see, will take your confidence with women, as well as your overall lack of insecurity, and skyrocket it. You'll notice you won't really need this club "avatar" - you're skills are becoming a part of you and your life.

So let's get the ball rolling...

One thing I want to throw out about day game is that you need to be aware of your energy level. When in a club your energy level should be higher than (or at least match) the set you're opening - that's common knowledge. You don't want to bring down the energy of the group. This is where gaming in the daytime is different. When gaming in the daytime I've had the most success by taking the opposite approach. I want to be the most chilled out, layed back guy around. I want to show her that even though we're out in this open social environment and surrounded by strangers, I am just as relaxed as I would be at my own home. Any pressures that could come up won't budge me at all.

Storytime. I once made eye contact with a very attractive woman at a local shopping center. I immediately walked towards her and used one of my favorite openers. Now usually I would advocate smiling when you open but not with this one. I walked up to her, stopped with her at my side, and in a very calm (yet accusatory) way, I ask "Did you just give me a dirty look?"
"I...uh...no...I don't think so" she replies in a not-so-sure tone
"Why would you do that? Do you know me from somewhere?" I say, as if I didn't hear her answer.
"No, I don't think so...but...(shy smile comes up on her face) can I have your number?"
"Wow, first you want to fight me and now you want my number huh? I guess that's the better way to go, I seriously don't think you'd be able to do much with these noodles" I say as I squeeze her arm as if feeling her bicep.
I've had this happen several times but this particular girl I actually questioned later, and she told me that she was so turned on by how relaxed and layed back I was that it really didn't matter what I said. My body language and super calm demeanor won her.

Along the same lines of a calm presence, something you may want to give a try to is going into slow-mo mode when you're out sometime. Now I don't mean walk super slow like the slow kid at school with the lopsided head that fell down the steps alot when he was little. I'm talking walk slow as if there's not a care in the world. Know that in this instance when I say slow I mean REALLY slow down. Like I said, make your movements like you're in slow motion. When I'm out during the day I seem to get the most IOI's and approach invitations after I've been up all the night before. I walk around tired and lazily, my eyes half shut, and I get an amazing amount of stares and smiles.

Like anything else different things are going to work for different people. If the super calm, laid back guy doesn't seem congruent, then your safest bet would be to just match the energy of your environment. If you're in a more laid back setting then be just as laid back. If you're in a faster paced place then pick it up a bit.

Now my perspective on daygame is simply this: pull them out of their routine. This is really a pretty universal thing in terms of pickup, but I think it's really essential for daygame and works like magic for hired guns. Most people are a walking ball of patterns and habits. If you can break them out of that then you're going to make an impact, and the farther from their routine you take them the more emotionally charged they can get. Think about this: imagine a sliding scale from 0 - 100, with 50 being neutral. 100 is going to be the most highly positive event or scenario or thing that that person is capable of handling. On the opposite end, getting down towards 0 and you're getting into things so negative and tramatic that they cause permanent emotional damage. Most people, on average, are going to walk around in everyday life lingering somewhere between about 40-60. So what kind of an impact do you think you can have on her if you open with something that takes her up to a 65? A 70 or higher?

I like to get pretty absurd sometimes, just because some of it can be so far out in left field that it completely sucks them in. One example that I've used several times - if I'm out shopping and see some crazy underwear, I'll pick them up. Now if an attractive female walks by as I shop I stop her for an opinion, hold up the underwear over my midsection, and say "what do ya think? I could totally rock these, yeah?" Keep in mind most of the time we're talking about a sparkly red man-thong or a bright orange and pink banana-hammock. Always gets a great response.

An entire post could probably be done on this alone so I'm going to go into more detail for now, but for a few examples read my previous post about the grocery store.

So here are a few more pointers for your daytime experience. Firstoff, though it's best to approach her quickly and steer clear of proximity, make sure you approach her when there isn't as much of a chance for interruption. If she's in a line getting ready to order, or if she's working and has customers to deal with, then hold off. You want to minimize interruptions. You also want to try to make her more comfortable then she is, and don't be afraid to lead her. If you can insta-date her go for it but don't expect it to happen quickly. Her shields are going to be lower then they are in a club environment, and most of the time if she's acting as if she's blowing you off it's not because she is but rather because she's not used to being pulled from her routine and doesn't know how to react. Just act like approaching her was not a big deal - just like any other pickup, if you're nervous or uncomfortable then she will be too. Walk up cool, get her attracted quick, and work on building a quick connection with her. Then you either insta-date, set up a day2, or number close. If you can't insta-date then set up a day2, get her number, then hang out for another minute and connect with her. Don't just get her number and split. Chat for another minute, make it fun, and leave at a high point - leave her wanting more. Don't let it taper off.

When you begin approaching women you're going to notice that you'll hear one phrase a whole hell of a lot - "I have a boyfriend". This is a woman's default line, whether it's true or not. Don't let it scare you off, she's simply trying to protect herself from douchebags. Most guys would walk away, which is obviously not the right thing to do. Don't let it throw you off track. I usually reply with something like "Awesome, good job. Anyways...(back to convo", or "Great, I like a challenge", "Cool, that'll give you something to do when I'm not around" or, if she says it while I'm trying to set up a day2 - "He can't come. So anyways....". Show her it doesn't bother you and that you aren't going to put a second thought into it and you'll be okay. Usually you can still get a number (or more) even if it's true.

This is starting to get long and drawn out so now on to my most successful daygame technique. This is really no secret. Guys like David DeAngelo talk about throwing stuff like this in, but I hardly even see guys doing it even in small amounts, not less structuring an entire interaction on it. I've done this quite a few times in the past, but never really realized how insanely effective it was until I really reflected back and noticed that it's honestly never failed me. It always gets a good reaction and has led to a lot of good nights where she chased and seduced me.
Basically I open her with an exaggerated bitch or complaint or accusation. When I say exaggerated I mean complete with loud sighs, rolling my eyes, throwing my hands up in disbelief. It's so over-the-top with my tone and actions that it's obviously joking. Sometimes I'll just sigh, roll my eyes, and shake my head in response to something they say. Occassionally I'll squint my eyes and give a little sly smile after I say something in this way.

The initial reaction I usually get is an apology for whatever they're being accused of, combined with a laugh. Soon they start playing along. If you get a fun one they'll play along right away. I basically keep this up for several minutes, and then back off of it and go into rapport, but I still sprinkle it in here and there. Also, anytime I ask her a question I turn my head slightly to the side, furrow my brows, and ask in a suspicious way.

This is harder to effectively explain then I thought it would be. Let me give you an example of a conversation or two.

Here's a common scenario: I turn my cart up an aisle at the grocery store and see an attractive woman looking for an item. She's left her cart in the very middle of the aisle, so I'll have to squeeze by. Rather then do that I simply stop when I get close, sigh loudly, shake my head, gesture towards her cart and, in an exaggerated frustration, say "Just take up the whole aisle". I then roll my eyes, continue to shake my head, and say "god...". I say this whether she sees me standing there or not, and I say it loud enough that I know she'll hear.
"Sorry" she says with a small chuckle, and move her cart aside.
"I swear..." I say, squinting my eyes and again shaking my head. I then give a small smile and walk away. That's right, I continue up the aisle.
Of course an aisle or two down I run into her again. I again act frustrated and in an accusatory way I throw out a common community line...
"Are you following me now? I kinda get that stalker vibe from ya." She'll almost always reply by playing along and saying that she is indeed following you.
"You know, stalking is a very serious offense, you better knock it off. I don't need another stalker."
In some instances I'll throw out a cold read here, usually along the lines of her being a troublemaker, etc etc., however, most of the time I walk off yet again. When I run into her a third time I again act over-the-top angry
"That's it, I've had enough. I'm calling the police. You're going down (notice the double entendre)"
Usually after taking it this far I'll start to go into rapport. You don't wanna keep this up forever and it really doesn't take much to get her into you.

That last one is based off of many real interactions I've had, and trust me, it works. I'll throw out one more quick example. I had a girlfriend that had a very hot friend. The first time I ever met her I was still pretty much an AFC, but I've always been a smartass. She came over and I stayed pretty quiet until she said something kinda cheesy. I looked at her, shook my head, and said "oh my god, you're such a dork". She looked at me like she couldn't believe it, which she probably couldn't considering this was the first thing I ever said to her. That started the ball rolling. The next time she came over I got up to the answer the door, saw it was her, and said "Oh, it's just the dorky girl" and rolled my eyes. This basically escalated over the next three or four interactions. Nothing I EVER said to this girl was nice. It was all like I described above. She would come over, I would answer, and say "Oh my god, you're back again? (shakes head) Don't you have a home?". Anyways, after a few weeks my gf and I broke up. The next day her friend shows up, supposedly not knowing that we were broken up. I let her in anyways telling her she can come in for a minute until she gets on my nerves. She walked right in and told me that she's bored, and that she got all dressed up and has nothing to do.
"I even shaved" she said.
"About time, you coulda braided that leg hair" I responded
"I shaved my legs too, but that's not what I was talking about." She then stood up and lifted her skirt, showing me that she is indeed proficient with a razor. I then found out she was proficient with many other things as well...
I'd love to hear what you guys think of this article - shoot me an email with your comments, questions, advice, and especially any success stories. Until next time...

-Dane